what you'll discover
Decode the Gender Code
Together, we’ll uncover the unwritten rules dictating how you’re expected to behave based on your gender and explore how they impact your personal and professional life.
Empower Your Leadership
I’ll guide you through the specific challenges that come with being a woman in leadership, helping you recognise and break through the barriers that have been holding you back from realising your full potential.
Challenge Stereotypes:
Through evidence-based research, I’ll debunk the myths about gender differences in leadership, empowering you to step away from limiting beliefs.
Inspiring Real Stories
I’ve included powerful narratives from women who’ve successfully navigated the complexities of the Gender Code. Their stories will inspire you to reclaim your power and authenticity.
Practical Strategies for Balance
You’ll gain actionable strategies to build an inclusive environment and promote gender equity within your organisation while supporting your own leadership growth.
Time for a Shift
Could the pursuits you believe will bring you fulfillment—work-life balance, personal time, happiness, or breaking the glass ceiling—be holding you back from what you truly desire? You’re not alone; these challenges are universal, but there are solutions.
Time for a Shift
To create change, we must first understand the societal beliefs and stereotypes that shape our lives. By recognising these as myths, we can begin to dismantle them.
This book invites you to interrogate the codes that govern your thoughts and actions, presenting a methodology for crafting your own unique code using the strengths you already have.
Rewrite Your Story
You have the internal resources you need. This book emphasises that your current efforts, including caregiving, are invaluable assets that contribute to both personal and professional growth.
Instead of striving for ‘having it all’ or ‘nothing at all’ discover a third path based on what matters most to you. By creating a new code grounded in your unique strengths, you’ll learn to prioritise well-being, embrace excellence over perfection, and reward yourself along the way.
In breaking the GENDER CODE within you, you’ll build confidence in your true self and pave the way for future generations of code breakers.
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Latest Reviews
“For years as a working Mum of 3 children I struggled with the guilt of not being the ‘stay at home’ Mum that my Mother was. Instead I had a stellar corporate career which brought our family significant comfort and choice and took me all over the world. Despite the fact that my husband was a wonderful work from home Father and was always there for our daughters, my Mummy guilt pursued me and I never shook the deeply ingrained belief that it was really my job to do all the nurturing and that I somehow had to fit all that in around the edges. No wonder I often felt like a failure.
After reading this book I know why I felt like this and that there is another, better way. Danielle Dobson has written ‘Breaking the Gender Code’ for every woman that has felt the way I have. She has uncovered not only why we feel this way, but also given us a framework for choosing a different path in defining our own code. A code that is unique to us, one that will serve and support us and our families and not damage us with shame and guilt.
If you’re a working Mum please read this book, it could set you free. If you’re interested and invested in supporting working Mums and helping them live into their full potential at home and at work please read this book. If you’re interested in the societal norms that govern our world today, read this book. Breaking the Gender Code can help us all understand what is holding us back from living the lives we really want and empower us to design our own codes, because we are all uniquely and beautifully different.”
“Danielle Dobson’s book “Breaking the Gender Code: How to use what you already have to get what you actually want“ makes an important contribution to women, families, and society. Like understanding the structures and illusions that allow a magic trick to appear ‘magic’, understanding the gender code helps us see the beliefs and structures that put so much pressure on women.
Thankfully Danielle goes further than that, providing a framework for each of us to envisage, create, and live our own code. This book is powerful! “
“Danielle has a warm and personable style that invites the reader in and lets them know they can trust her. I love the way Danielle asks so many questions in the book allowing readers to come up with their own answers.
Every time I dip into your book I think back to my days as a hands-on mum. I think how differently I would have mothered if a book like yours had been available 25-30 years ago. I think too of how my mum mothered and how different things could have been for us kids if she knew this stuff as well.
My childhood and my kid’s childhood were safe and as good as possible given what my mum knew and what I knew. But I’m glad for my grandies who are being raised differently because their parents see life differently.”
“Congratulations on bringing your research in a way that is so clear and relatable. Thanks for taking the time to interview women who are saying so much of what the rest of us are thinking.”
“Breaking the Gender Code contains lots of helpful support for women, suggesting ways they can bring their lived experience as mothers to work and their lived work experience to their parenting. Both women and men have missed being human, (being, feeling and doing what is right for us) in falling into the coding and stereotypes that society has provided to us.
Breaking the Gender Code can open our eyes to being part of a more human future.”
“There is so much in your book that I resonate with. I only highlight in books that really have an impact on me and that I want to read again. Your book is getting the highlighter treatment!! This highlighted sentence [“If you realise how important you are, can you dial down the busyness, release some of the pressure and take your focus off productivity?”] has had a great impact on me as its been what I have been trying to do in the last few years and am only now beginning to feel comfortable with having that mindset.
I have a couple of friends with whom I can have some great chats about many things you talk about in your book.
I feel that through talking about our challenges we can support each other and help each other manage our individual challenges.”
“Danielle’s book is like the bible to women issues. So much to unpack, learn – something for everyone. Danielle must’ve spent so much time learning, listening, organizing her thoughts. What powerful knowledge to have? Bravo mama!”
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